Dating online and other

Originally posted on 7/11/11

So I'm trying something new this dating. So far I can tell you, I really don't think I like it. Going to try it for a little while longer, but I'm not sure it's going to be for me.

Most of the men I've met so far say they want honesty but when you give it to them, they get mad. One said nothing about himself in his profile. He just asked, "What will get your attention?" and then proceeded to ramble on about being able to leap tall buildings, being able to save entire third world countries with his charm alone, blah blah blah. So I told him, as funny as his profile is, unfortunately it said nothing about him and who he really is. Well for that honesty I got called a name that, to be honest, has been heard before. This time though I felt it was undeserved. How does a woman be honest without having men accuse her of being bitchy?

The other thing I have a problem with is my weight. Now right in my profile I state that I am fat and yet there are those that wished to challenge that. Even going to the degree of asking for more pictures to see me better. If I say I'm fat, why are you arguing with me? Why are you being so shallow? Is this maybe what's keeping you from finding someone to make you happy?

Update: 7/17/11

The online dating thing is as I feared.

They want sex, a mother to raise their cheaper by the dozen brood, someone with money, or the next great super model.

This coming from men who look like they haven't bathed in awhile, only have a PART-TIME job (of course you need help raising those children), and list themselves as 'average' build. Average, really? Who told you that. Come on if you can't be honest with yourself, you'll never be honest with others.

Yes, out of morbid curiosity, I'll give it a little more time but I'm having serious doubts.

7/28/11 update:

Still having no luck. I don't know if there's something in the water around here that makes everyone crazy or what but I'm glad I drink bottled water...just in case.

Update 9/27/11:

I gave up on this about a month ago. I either was getting no responses or sleazy ones.
The men that contacted me wanted me skinnier or prettier or younger. Less opinionated, more submissive. My wit is to quick, my tongue too sharp...and oh lord have mercy...I read too. Not that.

I have an outgoing personality but that doesn't mean I'm the most confident person in the world. Online dating is brutal. Too brutal for me. My self esteem just can't take anymore abuse.  

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